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August 3, 2010

Sweet Names

Filed under: Uncategorized — lawsonjolly @ 5:00 am

My wife and I recently received an invitation to dinner.   Old friends had heard we had moved back to the area, and a couple from years ago called and asked us to come for dinner.  We were delighted with the opportunity because we had not seen them in years. 

This couple had been such an influence in our lives.  The couple, now in their middle 80s, had served a church in the area where we first began our ministry.  They had been role models for us in many ways.  We felt they adopted us as part of their family.  He became my mentor in ministry.  Many times I had gone to him for advice.  I am so aware of many things I do as a result of his tutelage.

The night came when we would have a delightful evening.  We talked of so many things.  However, what most impressed me was the loving and kind relationship they expressed to one another.  The elderly couple constantly smiled at one another with a love that you knew was from the early days of their marriage.

One of them would say something, and quite often the other would pat the hand of the one who had spoken.  It was an expression of agreement and love.  The affection for one another could not be sweeter.  My mentor would constantly make endearing remarks to his wife.  I began to pick up on his vocabulary.

“Honey, that is the best roast beef we have ever had.”  “Sugar, have you told these young folks about . . . ?”  “Sweetie, would you pass the mashed potatoes?”  “Darling, you are the perfect hostess.”

I realized that he never spoke to her without addressing her with sweet names.  As one who so admired this man, I was once more learning from him.  These expressions of love and sweetness do not abound often in the lives of a couple who have been married for the more than sixty years as they have.

As we finished the meal, the wife began to remove the plates from the table in order to bring dessert.  My wife got up to help her.  As they cleared the table, they began to work in the kitchen to ready the dessert.  They were gone for a few minutes and it gave me the opportunity to talk privately to my dear friend.

I told him that I was so impressed with the endearing terms he used for his wife.  I acknowledged to him that once again he was mentoring me.  I thanked him for this lesson, and again expressed what a wonderful example it was.

My friend looked at me as a teacher to the student.  “Don’t be so impressed.  It is not some big deal.”

“But oh, it is,” I replied. 

He looked at me as if confessing.  “I don’t want to mislead you.  You want to know why I use all those endearing names like honey, sweetie, darling?”

Of course, I did.  But before I could reply, he continued, “I have to use all those names because I can’t remember hers!”

No, it didn’t really happen.  But you smiled!  It takes more muscles to frown than smile.  So save some energy.  Enjoy today.  Smile . . . smile . . . smile!

“A happy heart makes the face cheerful.”  (Proverbs 15:13)  “A cheerful look brings joy to the heart.”  (Proverbs 15:30)  “A cheerful heart is good medicine.”  (Proverbs 17:22)



1 Comment »

  1. Thanks Lawson, you got me smiling. Great story and the way we should all treat our spouses with love and kind comments and sweet names. Thanks again for your daily words of wisdom.

    Comment by Dudley Henry — August 3, 2010 @ 9:01 am | Reply

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